a little too traditional

Things are coming along right nice with setting up the new house. Ive been so busy lately I havent had much time to put up all my decorations. Ive been noticing in the last week or so that our house is starting to take on a diffrent look than what I had in mind. Not that its bad AT ALL but the house is starting to take on a very traditional look/style, and thats not our style. So Ive been searching for key pieces to help break up the house a bit and add some of the eclectic flair that I love so much. Well, I came across a doozy of a find today that I immediatly fell in love with. Now I know this isnt everyones cup of tea, but it is so mine :-) This will be what is hanging over my dining room table in 7-10 business day! I.CANT.WAIT!

Now Im still gonna make my mason jar chandelier, but ive decided that little beauty is going to go in the kitchen above the table.

Fingers crossed, lets hope Zach likes it as much as I do....... Ha Ha

Cancun

I WANNA GO BAAACK!

It's way to cold here right now.

We probably wont be taking any type of vacation like this until the summer :-(

We promised Zachs daughter if she makes all A's or really good grades in school this year, we will take her some place on a cool vacation after school lets out. As long as its warm and fun I wont care where it is!



But I have a mound of DIY projects and house setting up to do to keep me occupied........for now!

Friendship, walking on that fine line....

examples of walking a fine line:
 "Sally walks a fine line in renogotiating higher prices with our best client."
 "The police chief is walking a fine line in dealing with the kidnappers."
 "Steve walks a fine line in flirting with his bestfriends girl"
 "Jane walks a fine line in telling her good friend she doesn't like her husband"


Now that we have some examples set in place I can begin. Friendship is a hard thing, its a relationship just like with your boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife. It always takes work and  both people have to make an effort. Friends are gonna fight. Your gonna want to claw eachothers eyes out at times. But theres also a lot of times where you laugh together, do nothing together, drink together, be in eachothers weddings and so on and so forth.

So what sends a friendship over that death cliff? It can be a number of things; Time, Lying, stealing a boyfriend, Stealing a job,ect. And how do you know when a friendship is over? Do you break up? Sit down and chat it out and decide to go your seperate ways? Just quit talking to eachother? Theres no friendship statuses on facebook to change to "ended friendship" "single friend" or "best friend wanted". Its impossible to stay friends with everyone you ever meet or have a relationship with. If you say you can I say you're a liar and I have a name for people like you!

I know I hate confrontation. Especially with a friend or family member. I used to be very bad about avoiding it all together. I dont really hold grudges, no matter how hard I try. And I can usually bounce right back after a short period of time if someone pissed me off. But how do you approach a confrtonational situation with a dear friend that you already have a very strained relationship with? This is something I've been stewing with for more than a year now. How do you begin? Where do you start? We all know when you start pointing the finger at someone else they are going to start pointing one of their little digits right back at you. Sometimes it can be hard to hear the truth. You dont know if you want to hear it so you avoid the whole situation all together. Think you'll get over. Well heres a new flash for everyone: YOU WONT GET OVER IT!

Turns out im not the only one with issues in one of my "friendships", if you can even call it that anymore. A friendship I used to hold very near and dear is in the process of crashing and burning. Its a 50/50 blame here. Its crashing on my end because Ive had quite a few issues and ill feelings towards the person for the last year or so but kept my mouth shut. It was just too hard. Its burning on her end because she distanced herself from me instead of talking to me and clearing the air about something she wasnt happy with. In excluding me from a lot of her life, it made me feel like I'd done something wrong. I could never figure it out. I was always upset about the direction our friendship was going. People got tired of hearing me talk about it, so I had to just keep it all, and that never does any good either.

No normal, sane person likes picking fights with their best friends and loved ones, but sometimes a fight is the only way to come up with an answer. One awesome thing Zach has taught me to do is hash it out. You cant hold things in, gotta just talk it out, no matter what the subject or how sensative it may be. Its hard sometimes when your walking a fine line between 2 things.You dont want to hurt someones feelings but by keeping your mouth shut and putting space between 2 people can be worse than talking about whatever it is thats got you upset. If the person is a true friend, they will understand and you'll figure out a way to get over it or move on from the friendship. Either way it saves a lot of unwanted doubt, self pitty, sadness, and stress. But I am more now than I ever was a firm believer in its all about how you approach the situation (my awesome hubby taught me that also). How you bring up the topics. It could even save a friendship.

A friendship is like anyother relationship. Its a 2 way street. Theres other peoples feelings involved when you make decisions about the relationship. Be mindful of others thoughts and hearts. I know Im not always, but will try to work harder at that.

"The most fatal disease of friendship is gradual decay, or dislike hourly increased by causes too slender for complaint, and too numerous for removal."

Ikea and a Christmas tree

Where has all the time gone?! Is it seriously Decmeber 2nd already? When did this happen?
anywho...
A LOT has been going on lately. We closed on our house on the 19th and have slowly been moving things over to the new house. My little mazda hatchback holds a lot more than you might think! We are finally moving in this weekend. Im so excited I cant stand it. The fence guy will be finishing up the fence tomorrow morning so we can bring the dogs over. My brain has been going a million miles an hour with ideas that I can not wait to do. Ive been painting and picking out paint colors (leaving all the taping off to my wonderful hubby of course) and putting together new furniture the past few weeks. Yesterday I got this craving, yes craving not an urge, to go to Ikea. Knowing my hard working hubby didnt get off until late I called my wonderful parents to see if they wanted to go. When my mom answered the phone I could immediatly tell she was NOT happy, at all, but was trying to do that thing where you play it off and act like everythings fine. I knew right away what was wrong (back story in a nutshell: Mom was P-I-S-S-E-D off that that dad wouldnt let her get a real live christmas tree this year and she said she wasnt putting any decorations up this year because of it. It seemed like my dad wasnt really budging on the idea, or so I thought) My mom said no and said my dad couldnt go because he had to help her put up christmas decorations tonight. We end our phone call and 30 minutes later my phone rings "home" again I answer. Say " you wanna go to ikea?" my mom goes "no, but your dad does" Clearly still not a happy camper. Im guessing in that 30 minute time frame the whole christmas tree thing got brought up again and re-pissed her off. I get to my parents house after work to pick my dad up, ask my mom one more time if she wants to go,no, and we jump in the car. Before we even get out of the driveway I tell my dad of my brilliant new idea. Instead of going to Ikea lets go to home depot, get a tree and come home and suprise mom with it. After 5 or so mintues of my "pleading my case"as to why we needed to, we pull in the home depot parking lot. We got the most beautiful noble fur christmas tree, tied it to the top of the car (and of course my father had to show the guy helping how to tie a proper christmas tree to the top of the car knot, typical) and headed home. I pulled in the drive way honking my horn and flashing the lights. My mom comes out shocked. I loved the moment she realized we had got a her a tree. Loved it! Put the tree up and it looks perfect in their den.
The night ended on a great note with me and my dad going to garden ridge to get me an early Christmas presnet (nice big 8x10 rug!)
Such a great week this is turning into. WOOHOO so excited for the weekend.

Buying a home

Well, we close on our very first house on the 19th. Im a little bit of every emotion imagineable! Its been a long process and I'd like to say that I'm glad its almost over, but the truth is its just beginning. Owning your very own home is a scary thing. No more calling daddy and mommy dearest (my land lords for the past 2 1/2 years) when something goes wrong or needs to be changed. It all falls on me and Zachs shoulders. I will still undoubtedly still be calling my parents for help when I have no clue on the ins and outs of certain homeownership things. (I already have a list of "projects" ive already told  asked my loving father to help me with!) I get a call from my mom Sunday saying "your sisters garage is flooded and "stuff" is coming up from the toilets. A pipe is busted. Its bad." Almost immediately two thoughts popped in my head: 1) Oh my gosh that sucks so bad for them. I wonder what caused it......(leading into my next thought) 2) OMG!!! I wonder what caused it?! Im about to buy a house! What if that happens to us?! What do I do?! Where do we begin?! AAAHHHHHHH! im not dramatic at aaallll. Luckily they got it fixed and their Home Warranty they have helped cover it. I will for sure be investing in one of those home warranty things! Anyway, after all that, the emotion that still trumps all of the others is excitment! Its our house. No one elses. I dont have to ask permission to paint a wall (or knock down a wall for that fact) I cant wait to put all our personal touches on EVERYTHING! And since I am my fathers daughter, I will be taking on a few projects myself that I would of never thought in a million years I would want to do myself instead of hire someone. Zach still laughs when I tell him Im going to retile the powder room floor and put up backsplash in the kitchen myself. Its a personal goal I have and Im gonna do it and do it right damnit! I cant wait to have all our friends over for a little house warming party :-)

someday a pool table!

Zachs hoping the new laundry room inspires me to do more laundry.

I think it will ;-)

picture a hanging day bed!



Dear John

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Last night was the first time I've ever watched Dear John and let me tell you, I've NEVER cried so hard over a movie before. Like out loud tears streaming down my face. Call it the sad movie, or the glass of wine, or the PMS. I dont know. Either way I loved the movie but thought it was very sad. I sounded/looked like a blubbering idiot. Its a very good thing Zach was at work or he would of for sure made fun of me! Sheesh. On to a happier movie tonight.....



Sip & See

Lately I feel like I'm becoming more of a creative person. I feel like my brain is constantly going and winding with ideas. Some of the ideas are about decorating or little projects, but in this case it was a party! Who doesnt like a fun party with attention to detail?! So when I found out my sister was pregnant with her 2nd baby I immediatly got excited to throw her a baby shower. I couldnt wait since when she had her first baby I lived up north and didn't get to participate in any of the planning. Sad face. Well, she found out she was having another boy and wasnt sure if she wanted another baby shower.  I had heard of sip and see's so I brought the idea up to her instead of a baby shower and she fell in love with the idea. So then comes planning (something im not GREAT at). I may not have started writing things on my blog yet but I sure did stalk other peoples blogs! I came across so many cute things but finally decided on a colorful candy themed sip and see. The hardest part was definitely the invitations. But with a little hard work, patience and that great place called Fedex/KinkosOffice. So here are some pictures of the invites and some of the decorations I remembered to take pictures of!

This is the "H" I covered with moss to hang on the door but sadly lost the ribbon that day so it propped up against the wall instead!

I had to liven up the outside so I spent a few hours at the top of a ladder the night before hanging all these beauties up.

Yummy treats and the cute name banner I made from some cheap flashcards!

and no party is complete with out drinks (alcoholic & non alcoholic)

and to add in some of the animal theme from the invite the candy bags and cups for the kiddos

 had a lion on them. Great $1 store buy :-)

all in all it was a great party and fun day!

And here we go...

Well, it seems like I have had this blog forever and have never actually gotten around to posting anything on here. I think thats how blogging is supposed to work. People cant read your blog if there is nothing to read. Since lately I've been having the jeopardy theme song playing in my mind while trying to figure out what to write about, here it is, my very FIRST post. Its not going to be the best blog ever but hopefully it wont be the worst!! I have a million things Ive been stock piling to put into entries so the next few weeks are going to be just playing catch up with my pretty new blog :-) Im a pretty random person so I can almost guarantee this blog will be just as random, AND I am horrible with grammer and spelling so prepare yourself for a lot of run on sentances and misspelled words. Enjoy!


~Sammy